4. Be the mirror.
Your husband is the mirror in which you see yourself. And the things you say to him give him an image of himself too, which he will believe. You want him to believe it, so make it good. Be a mirror that reflects something positive: you’re smart, you’re successful, you’re fantastic in the sack, you’re a great provider, you’re the best. Can you MAKE him any of these things just by telling him he is? I don’t know, but consider this: the alternative really sucks. The things my husband says to me are 1000 times more convincing than anyone else’s opinion on earth. Don’t think he won’t believe you because you’re married and you’re contractually obligated to say nice things. He’ll believe the shitty, insulting things you say, and the gloriously positive things.
I agree with her that we might not put much stock in what other people think of us, but the things our partners think, we believe. If this is true in any form, reflect only positive and beautiful things to your partner. Of course, we fight and disagree, but I really try to tell my husband everyday that I am so proud to be his wife and that there is no one I would rather be with than him.
|Dress: Max Studio (from March)|
Earrings: c/o Lavishy at LuckyFABB
Hummingbird Necklace: c/o Dogeared Jewelry at LuckyFABBSolitaire Necklace: Gift from Dad (old)
|Bracelets: Fossil & Lauren Ralph Lauren; Ring: Kate Spade via eBay|
|Tote: Rebecca Minkoff; Scarf: BCBGMaxAzria|
|Sandals: Cole Haan|