Monday, May 13, 2013

My Apologies

I hope all you mothers out there had a wonderful weekend! We went to a concert by our friend, the Music Man and I wore...wait for it...a MAXI Dress! Today's prompt for BEDIM is to issue a public apology. It can be as serious or silly as you want. So here is mine:

Dear Readers - I'm sorry that I think about blogging and then decide to go have lunch instead...for three or four days in a row.  I know it sucks and I try to stick to a schedule and then I have no excuse and all I can do is apologize.  Also, I'm sorry for not remembering to take outfit photos until we are leaving the bar at midnight and you get dark, grainy photos.

Dear Kids - I'm so sorry that you got me and I have no idea what I am doing about 98% of the time and the other 2% are just a lucky guess.

Dear Mr. Fantastic - I'm sorry I told our teenager he could have a drumset, I swear I wasn't thinking and he looked so jubilant when I said yes. I will buy us both ear-plugs...Oops.
Dress: Max Studio (old); Earrings: c/o Lavishy at LuckyFABB
Hummingbird Necklace: c/o Dogeared Jewelry at LuckyFABB
Gold Bar Necklace: Fossil via eBay
Solitaire Necklace: Gift from Dad (old)
Bracelets: Fossil & Lauren Ralph Lauren; Tote: Chloe
Wedges: MIA (old)
So yeah. I'm sorry.
HAVE YOU EVER ISSUED A PUBLIC APOLOGY? SHARE!

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

My Advice To The World: Be The Mirror

Today's BEDIM prompt is to write about your advice to the world.  The best relationship advice I ever read was by Lidia Netzer and it is titled: 15 Ways to Stay Married For 15 Years.  While I agree with all of them, the one I really took to heart and I firmly believe works no matter how long or short you have been married is number 4:

4. Be the mirror.

Your husband is the mirror in which you see yourself. And the things you say to him give him an image of himself too, which he will believe. You want him to believe it, so make it good. Be a mirror that reflects something positive: you’re smart, you’re successful, you’re fantastic in the sack, you’re a great provider, you’re the best. Can you MAKE him any of these things just by telling him he is? I don’t know, but consider this: the alternative really sucks. The things my husband says to me are 1000 times more convincing than anyone else’s opinion on earth. Don’t think he won’t believe you because you’re married and you’re contractually obligated to say nice things. He’ll believe the shitty, insulting things you say, and the gloriously positive things.


I agree with her that we might not put much stock in what other people think of us, but the things our partners think, we believe.  If this is true in any form, reflect only positive and beautiful things to your partner.  Of course, we fight and disagree, but I really try to tell my husband everyday that I am so proud to be his wife and that there is no one I would rather be with than him.
My other piece of advice is to never take away your partner's intentions to show you love and affection.  I understand that sometimes we don't want to feel like we are taking advantage of our loved ones, but everyone shows affection in different ways and we should never stop those around us from bestowing their love and care upon us.  If your friends, family and romantic partners can't spoil you rotten, who will?  We attended a wine tasting trail out in Grapevine last month and I never got around to posting the photos.
Dress: Max Studio (from March)
Earrings: c/o Lavishy at LuckyFABB
Hummingbird Necklace: c/o Dogeared Jewelry at LuckyFABB
Solitaire Necklace: Gift from Dad (old)
Bracelets: Fossil & Lauren Ralph Lauren; Ring: Kate Spade via eBay
Tote: Rebecca Minkoff; Scarf: BCBGMaxAzria
Sandals: Cole Haan
What is your advice to the world? Link up with Jenni here.

Monday, May 6, 2013

What Do You Do: My Life as a Wife in Progress

Several of my blog buddies are participating in Story of My Life's Write Everyday in May Challenge.  I have a hard time coming up with topics, but I know I can't write every single day, so I will jump in from time to time this month.  Today's topic is "What do you do?"
Dress: David Meister (size 8, GO ME!)
Earrings: Teocalli (old)
Bracelet & Ring: Kate Spade via eBay; Clutch: Jimmy Choo
Shoes: Manolo Blahnik via eBay
Ten years ago, my response would have been so much different than it is today.  I would have told you all about my job and how great I was at it and all the neat places I got to visit.  When I lost my full-time job over a year ago and went from job interview to job interview, I admit that I fell into a mild depression for the first time in my life.  I had never NOT worked since I was seventeen and I had no clue what to do besides get up and go to work. Today, I know that what I do for a living isn't the same as what I do with my life.  I still take the occasional contract or consulting assignment, but my life these days revolves around a tall, dark and handsome guy, our two teenagers, and the occasional pilates class.
We are in the process of selling our house and we're currently under contract for the THIRD time and I struggle to keep the house "show-ready."  But the best thing I do is try to make my husband happy everyday.  I am very fortunate that he has a job and a savings plan that allows us to not panic when I have no income.  This weekend we attended a Charity Ball here in Dallas and I have to admit, we look good! He's the best looking guy I know and I am still amazed that he loves me and has helped me build this life we love with the kids and our friends and family.  I'm not the best wife, but I am a wife in progress and he's so good to me!

What do YOU do?

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Pantone Spring Color Challenge: Lemon Zest

Today is the third day of Marissa and Heidi's Pantone Spring Color Challenge and the color of the day is Lemon Zest. I thought of using the same outfit from Day 1 of LuckyFABB last month, but I already showed you that outfit, so I made some tweaks.  I love this sweater because it is very lightweight and perfect for Spring. I bought it last year and wore it in Jamaica during the trip I took with my sister to Negril.  Because of the bright yellow, I kept all other accessories neutral.
Sweater: Banana Republic Factory; Denim: Citizens of Humanity
Necklace: Michael Kors via eBay
Purse: Sam Edelman Armand (buy in Aqua)
Come link up with Heidi of Literate & Stylish and Marissa of The Modern Austen for their Pantone Spring Color Challenge here.

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How are you wearing this year's Spring colors?

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Pantone Spring Color Challenge: Violet Wrap

Today's color is African Violet, which I had a really hard time finding in my closet.  It wasn't until I was ready to give up that I realized I had this wrap from a cruise years ago in the back of one of my drawers.  I took the cheating even further and wore it with an old swimsuit cover up. That's right, this isn't actually a maxi dress, but a long swimsuit cover up which is why you can vaguely see my bra in a couple of these photos. I know I am going to wear this again on our next cruise this year because I've worn it before to comply with the no swimwear at dinner rule in some restaurants.
Dress: J.Valdi Swim Cover-Up (old); Wrap: Bijoux Terner on cruise ship
Necklace: Michael Kors via eBay; Earrings: c/o Lavishy at LuckyFABB
Clutch: Magid; Wrap Bracelet: c/o ShopJami at LuckyFABB
Gold Bracelet: Lauren Ralph Lauren via eBay
Slides: Lauren Ralph Lauren (old)
To show off how you are wearing African Violet or to see how the other bloggers have styled their violet items, please visit Marissa at The Modern Austen and Heidi at Literate & Stylish.  Today's link-up is here.

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Monday, April 29, 2013

Pantone Spring Color Challenge: Emerald Isle

This week I will be linking up with Heidi of Literate & Stylish and Marissa of The Modern Austen for their Pantone-Inspired Spring Color Challenge.  First up is Emerald and I am fortunate that St. Patrick's Day is my favorite holiday because I have tons of green tops so I just picked one when I found these giraffe printed shorts at Marshall's.  Compared to all the other green in my St. Patty's Day bin, I thought this was the closest to emerald instead of kelly green, but I shouldn't have stood in front of all the green in my yard because I think my skin looks green in some of these photos and my color correcting skills are dismal at best.
Top & Shorts: MICHAEL Michael Kors
Necklace: Fossil (via eBay)
Bracelet: Fossil (via eBay); Clutch: Vintage
Shoes: MIA
I also have to say that I have a very hard time wearing any type of high heel with shorts because my father in law and I always make fun of women who think they look casual in their tiny shorts while teetering on heels.  I hope he would make an exception because these are wedges instead of full heels, but he'd probably just give me the ol' eyeroll.
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To see how everyone else is wearing the Pantone color of the year or to show off how you are wearing Emerald, link up with Heidi & Marissa here!  And check back tomorrow to see if I was able to come up with anything African Violet colored. :)

Saturday, April 27, 2013

April Spending Recap

April spending was out of control and I have to admit that there were multiple regrets this month.  The biggest two involved shoes.  The first was the Lucky Brand flats pictured above (#5) not because of the price, but simply because I bought them in a rush to replace my old Dolce Vita flats (seen here) that I finally chucked.  I couldn't find plain black flats and I wanted a simple pair before going on my trip to LA.  When I found these at Marshall's two days before I left for $19.99, I didn't really think about the purchase and they turned out to be uncomfortable and sweaty. I meant to wear them most of the day Tuesday and I ended up switching INTO heels in the morning and staying in them most of the day.  The second involved a pair of c/o shoes that I will tell you about next week because it's complicated.

Before and during the trip to LA, I purchased:

1. Gap Chambray: $49.99 -35% Coupon = $32
2. JCrew Tiki Shorts: Final Sale = $22
3. Rebecca Minkoff Crossbody Rocker: Nordstrom Rack = $70-GC= $18
4. Grey for Saks 5th Avenue Scarf: $20 - 30%Promo = $14
5. LuckyBrand Emmie Flats: Marshall's Clearance = $21

Not Pictured:
6. Laundry by Design Dress: Marshall's Clearance = $30 (Item #1 on my Targeted Purchase List)
7. Michael Stars Pink Cowl Neck Tank: Nordstrom Rack = $15 - GC = $0
8. Fossil/LRL/Michael Kors bracelets and Necklaces: eBay Jewelry Lot = $37
After my trip to LA, I bought the items pictured above:

1. DKNY Oil Painting Jeggings: Clearance = $57
2. LA Made Dress/2Tops: (97+23) - 15% Coupon + Free Shipping = $102
3. MICHAEL Michael Kors Giraffe Print Shorts: Marshall's = $30

Not Pictured:
4. BCBGeneration Wedges: Marshall's = $40+ tax - GC = $18

Total = $381

I spent the remainder of my Nordstrom gift card this month ($73) on a Michael Stars top and to partially pay for the Rebecca Minkoff crossbody at the Nordstrom Rack in Beverly Hills.  I bought a JCrew clutch for my sister-in-law at Buffalo Exchange and used my $22 credit for it.  I am also a member of the TJX Rewards Access program and get invited to events at my local TJMaxx and Marshall's stores. Anyone can become a member and you get perks based on your purchases. This month I was invited to an early Saturday event and I won a $25 giftcard to the store while I was there. I used it to buy the BCBGeneration Wedges that I wasn't able to picture here but will wear soon.

The other problem I had was with an eBay seller last month that didn't resolve until the first of April.  I often look for jewelry or vintage pieces on eBay and last month, I saw a listing for a jewelry lot of Fossil/Lauren Ralph Lauren/Michael Kors/Kate Spade bracelets, necklaces, and rings. The bidding was fairly low (under $25) and there didn't seem to be a reserve.  I used a snipe bid to bid up to $40 because the items all looked fairly current. I ended up winning with a $37 bid, but was immediately contacted by the seller that they meant to place a reserve of $50 and did I still want the jewelry for $50. I replied that no, I wanted the jewelry for my winning bid of $37. They refused to send me the jewelry and I waited 10 days before I reported to eBay that I had not received my item. It wasn't until eBay got involved that they sent me the package minus a couple of rings and a necklace that had originally been pictured. They have since deleted the auction and didn't leave me feedback, but it was very disappointing to have to deal with that.

So...yea... my budget blew up this month...I feel pretty confident going into May, but my sister is visiting me at the end of next week and we have a formal charity function next week as well. Hopefully I can contain myself for both me and my husband's sanity.

How did you do in April? Link up with Fran and the Budgeting Bloggers!