We traveled to Waco to watch the Kansas Jayhawks take on the Baylor Bears this weekend. My husband and his brother have a tradition of taking their dad to a KU game at least once a season. This has been happening since I met them and it is always a great opportunity for them to spend time together just the men. A few years ago, there was a great family debate regarding if it was mean that the wives and children weren't invited. At the time, I agreed with the guys. I think because in my own family the guys always went away for beer and sports and we were never offended by this or felt left out. However as my brother-in-law is now engaged and the kids are getting more and more anxious to root for the Jayhawks, they finally caved and invited all the family to a game.
My sister-in-law and her daughter and the boys and I were so excited to
attend our first game. Unfortunately, the Jayhawks who were ranked and
the heavy favorites, lost to the unranked Bears. We didn't realize
this, but the guys had NEVER attended a game that KU lost in all the
years they've been to the games. So, clearly we are bad luck and will
not be invited back. We had a great time, but I will actually be happy
to leave my husband to his tradition with his brother and his dad. I
truly believe that there is a bonding that occurs when the women and
kids aren't around that simply can't occur when they are. It's the same
for women. I have my own traditions with my mom and my sister that
wouldn't be the same with men around. I can certainly see expanding
them to include my brother's wives, but not my brothers!
I think that my husband was relieved to have an excuse not to invite us
back, but I think it's sad that there has to be an excuse. I cannot
comprehend WHY they need an excuse to go off together to have a great
How do you handle your partner's traditions? Are you upset when women aren't invited on guys trips?